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By Gary Shunk

What is connection? One dictionary defines connection as “a relation of personal intimacy.” I had a hard time connecting with that.

This past year has been challenging for me. Limited face-to-face personal connections, and I am not talking about face-to-face via Zoom. Not being able to see a person’s smile. Making simple connections, like at the grocery store. Asking a fellow shopper, “Do you like that sauce?” Or recommending a favorite salsa to an indecisive shopper. Having a small interaction is a connection. But those have been too far apart and too few in number this past year.

“You have to make a space in your heart, in your mind, and in your life itself for authentic human connection.” Marianne Williamson


A few weeks ago, it dawned on me that what I miss and truly want is connection. Connection on an intimate, personal level by sharing myself openly, honestly, authentically, and vulnerably. Using my words, connecting to my feelings, and looking into a friend’s eyes.

When I connect in this fashion, I connect with myself, my Spirit. And then I connect with the other person at a much deeper level. Truly listening – listening without thinking what I say next and listening without expectations.


I experienced all that a few days ago. Wonderful. What a beautiful connection! The Hoffman Process helped me so much with connecting to my Spirit. Words can hardly express my gratitude. It is a feeling of contentment.

The Hoffman Process allowed deep connections to be made for me. First with myself and with my Process mates. Hoffman provides the tools to maintain connection with myself. I am still in touch every month with my small Process group. (October 2018 was our Process date.) Our large group is still regularly active on our What’s App site. Connections were made. Connection is maintained. Connections are relied upon.


I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” Brené Brown

I can definitely connect with that quote!


  • Ryan


    05/17/21 at 4:39 PM

    Thank you for your words…

  • Ryan


    05/17/21 at 4:38 PM

    Gary, I see you and love you. Miss you my brother….

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