You have done tremendous healing work at the Hoffman Process. Remember: healing is not about fixing yourself, or trying to be perfect. Healing is about being real, and practicing forgiveness and compassion for yourself and others.
Led by Hoffman teacher Ian Salvage
Videos, Quad Checks, and Appreciation & Gratitude Practice
Intro
Day 1. Connecting with Love
Spend today honoring each aspect of your Quadrinity. You now know you have the capacity to experience your full emotional range. Having self-compassion for whatever comes up is a Right Road practice.
Led by Hoffman teacher Ian Salvage
Day 2. Negative Love at Home
As your Integration weekend draws to a close, notice what is coming up in anticipation of going home. Patterns will come up, you’re human.
Led by Hoffman teacher Marissa Ingrasci
Day 3. Back in the Real World
Challenges are inevitable as you transition back into the “real world.” Bumps in the road do not mean you failed the Process. It means you are human – experiencing the human condition.
Led by Hoffman teacher Amy Thompson
Day 4. You Are Your Spiritual Self
At your Process, you created an “I am” statement based on something found in nature. You made a claim statement based on qualities of your Spiritual Self. Spend time absorbing these truths.
Led by Hoffman teacher Hilary Illick
Day 5. Self-Compassion as a Navigation
The Left Road is a road of deep pain – the pain of regret, remorse, self-criticism, self-blame, judgment, and hate – and what heals.
Led by Hoffman teacher Kevin Eyres
Day 6. You Are Not Alone
At the Hoffman Process, you experienced connection to yourself and others. You experienced belonging. Remember to ask for help, to give and receive support. And you always have community inside: your Quadrinity.
Led by Hoffman teacher Sharon Mor
Day 7. Your One-Week Anniversary
The most generous thing you can do for everyone you come into contact with is heal yourself. Practicing self-forgiveness and self-compassion opens your heart, enabling you to share your love with the world.
Led by Hoffman teacher Amy Thompson
Day 8. You're Still in Process
Your healing process continues for the rest of your life. Learning to respond from your Spiritual Self, versus reacting from your compulsive, automatic patterns, takes time and practice. Be gentle with yourself.
Led by Hoffman teacher Hilary Illick
Day 9. Make Self-Compassion a Habit
The three components of self-compassion are mindfulness (knowing how you feel), common humanity (normalizing your state, reaching out versus isolating), and self-kindness (“what’s the kindest thing I can do for myself?”).
Led by Hoffman teacher Amy Thompson
Day 10. Self-Compassion for Vicious Cycles
Remember: what we resist, persists. To judge yourself for being in a vicious cycle intensifies it, whereas hands on heart and compassion for the suffering it has caused brings you into healing.
Led by Hoffman teacher Jo Mattoon
Day 11. Shame Is Inevitable
At your Process, you experienced how your shame message is a lie. You are not defective, unworthy, unlovable, or bad. Practice self-compassion for the pain caused by your shame.
Led by Hoffman teacher Ian Salvage
Day 12. Recycling Is an Act of Love
Recycling gives your brain the opportunity to re-experience situations as your Spiritual Self. The impact is additive – the more often your brain experiences being your Spiritual Self, the more effortless it becomes.
Led by Hoffman teacher Kevin Eyres
Day 13. Embodying Self-Love
At your Process, you experienced the power of taking on different somatic shapes – such as the slouch walk versus striding. Take a moment now to take on the somatic shape of self-love.
Led by Hoffman teacher Marissa Ingrasci
Day 14. Being Human Means Having Patterns
What patterns have you been noticing today? More importantly, how have you been when you notice your patterns? Self-criticism paves the Left Road, whereas self-forgiveness and self-compassion pave the Right Road.
Led by Hoffman teacher Ian Salvage
Day 15. The Sear of Vindictiveness
At your Process, you explored vindictiveness, and experienced the truth: that blaming and revenge does not heal. Stay aware of your vindictive tendencies and release their energy so they don’t take over.
Led by Hoffman teacher Amy Thompson
Day 16. Self-Forgiveness for Being Human
Consider the fact that all your mistakes and habits, failings and flaws are natural aspects of being human. Bringing compassion and forgiveness to every aspect of your experience is how you heal.
Led by Hoffman teacher Sharon Mor
Day 17. Accessible Expression
Expression, the second step in the Cycle of Transformation, does not require a bat and pillow There are many ways to express and release the negativity of your patterns.
Led by Hoffman teacher Amy Thompson
Day 18. My Life Is My Responsibility
As children, we could not differentiate between our inner state and outer reality. Maturity brings empowerment. Take responsibility for your inner state, your choices, and your behavior, and release the rest.
Led by Hoffman teacher Hilary Illick
Day 19. Cycle of Transformation
Awareness – name your patterns. Expression – use voice and body to disconnect from their hold. Forgiveness & Compassion – everyone is guilty but no one is to blame. New behavior – transform pattern energy by recycling.
Led by Hoffman teacher Sharon Mor
Day 20. The Spin of Vicious Cycles
When you feel gripped by a really strong pattern, it’s probably a vicious cycle. Map it out – including thinking, feeling, and doing patterns. Remember you can exit the cycle at any point.
Led by Hoffman teacher Marissa Ingrasci
Day 21. Truce with Internal Community
When there’s a lot of mind chattering going on, your Quadrinity (internal community) might be out of alignment. A modified Quad Check can bring your four aspects back into balance, and renew their truce with each other.
Led by Hoffman teacher Marissa Ingrasci
Day 22. Emotional–Intellectual Balance
The Emotional Self and Intellect tend toward a power struggle with each other, when, in fact, they both have valuable contributions to make. Guide them to collaborate.
Led by Hoffman teacher Sharon Mor
Day 23. Transference – Yep, It Still Happens
Transference is inevitable. Something someone says or does sucks us back into the reactions we learned in childhood. Learning to recognize this, and using the Hoffman Process Transference model, helps you get free.
Led by Hoffman teacher Ian Salvage
Day 24. Self-Compassion for Vindictiveness
When you feel vindictive – toward yourself, toward someone else, or toward God – recognize this as a signal that you are in pain. Move from blaming to healing by giving yourself compassion.
Led by Hoffman teacher Kevin Eyres
Day 25. Practice Creating Harmony
When you sense something is amiss inside, cultivate curiosity. Wonder with self-compassion what the misunderstanding might be. When you find out, use Expression to release stuck energy and remake the truce.
Led by Hoffman teacher Hilary Illick
Day 26. Connection and Disconnection
It is normal to go into and out of connection with your Spirit. Life events, triggers, and moods pull us into patterns regularly. Reconnecting to Spirit is a Right Road practice.
Led by Hoffman teacher Jo Mattoon
Day 27. Using Voice and Body
Expressing with your voice and body allows you to disconnect from the energy of a negative pattern. “Bashing” with bat and pillow is only one of many ways to do this.
Led by Hoffman teacher Sharon Mor
Day 28. Going Beyond the Intellect
Healthy expression involves all aspects of your Quadrinity. Intellect names patterns. Body uses movement and voice to release stored energy and trapped emotions. Emotional Self emotes. Spiritual Self supports and guides.
Led by Hoffman teacher Kevin Eyres
Day 29. Recycling as Visioning
Visioning intentionally creates your Right Road, where you live from Spirit. Recycling supports this by transforming the energy of your patterns into qualities of your Spiritual Self.
Led by Hoffman teacher Hilary Illick
Day 30. Love, Loving, Lovable
You are not your patterns. You learned them to survive. At your Process, you experienced the truth of who you are. You are of the Light, you are Love, Loving, and Lovable.
Led by Hoffman teacher Kevin Eyres